September 22nd, 2008 | by Jack Reichert
Sometimes it can be the easiest thing to do, and sometimes the most challenging. Your ears are probably THE most important tools to use when dealing with anyone. This would seem obvious and you are probably saying: “Sure I listen.” But how many times have you found yourself in another universe when in midst a conversation with a friend. Or, you might even be in the right ballpark, but you are thinking about what you will reply while the other person is saying their piece.
This is especially important when in an argument or negotiation. We want to come across as smart, put in a real zinger. The best way to do this is to think quick and what better way to save time then to think while your “opponent” is taking? Right? That way you’ll have your ammunition ready!
Wrong! If you really want to come across smart, and “win” the argument. Listen closely to your “opponent.” You probably will find that when paying close attention to nuances that you have more in common than you think.
Most of the wise people I know tend to pause before they answer. I know that they have really listened to me, and I know that they care about what I think because they take the time to answer me properly.
This is true when dealing with an “opponent” but even more so with a loved one. Wouldn’t you like to give the people you love the feeling that you really care about them? I can think of no better way than to really listen to them.
So use your ears! They’re the greatest communication tool you have. Probably even more so than your mouth.
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